How do I love thee? You tell me!

Will anybody who loved to be told how much they are loved rise? Certainly, there are multitude rising. Thanks for the cooperation. Just wanted to know though and confirm that the fact that most or should I say almost all of the people want to hear comforting words at all times. Is there anybody that can be considered as an exemption? Answer is, NO ONE. 

It feels great and comforting to hear directly from someone how much you are loved, cared, important, desired, etc.. etc.. We don’t really feel tired of hearing the same words, errr flattering words (to say it right) all over again. Even if we have been told for like millionth of times each day, we still prefer to hear the same compliments from the people so dear to us. 

However, there are some people who are not vocal about what they feel. Yes, you read it right. There are some who are not. Do you think you will like it if your lover is not expressive while you are? Getting across this idea reminds me of a particular scene from The O.C. It was the part when Marissa Cooper embraced her boyfriend Ryan Atwood and unintentionally whispered “I love you”. Ryan was taken aback and replied “Thank you”. Isn’t that awkward? Well to some it is not, to some it is. 

Any situation depends on how you view it. However, there were times when all we need is to hear the exact things and words that we expect. While it is true that less expectation means less frustration and depression, what really drives us to move forward and be motivated are those expectations and hopes that we kept deep inside us.

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Which Side Are You?

Another year is about to start. Another chapter of our lives have to be lived. Some may be faced with new and unique challenges, while others might just keep on striving to face and live the recent struggles they have.

Some might have lost someone, while others have gained or found a new one. Some might have just promoted to a higher position at work, while some loss their own. Some might be smiling and laughing, and the others are crying. Some are willing to listen and give their shoulders, while some needs one.

Some could tell people they need help, others can’t. There are some who just permit anything to happen, while others make everything to possibly happen in accordance to their own will. There are some who can’t speak for themselves and therefore were compelled to listen. Just to listen.
There are some who, despite the pain they faced, they managed to smile and take everything; while allowing the other person to continually hurt them.

These are the two faces of life. Which side do you think you belong? Which side do you think you prefer to be? Which side do you think you can live your life? Do you think it’ll be fair to remain insensitive? Or you’ll prefer being the martyr?

"I may be resilient..
I might have overused my smiles and overlooked those tears..
I may seldom speak.. I might have lent always my ears..
I may be considered an automated 'whatever'.. just that automated 'whatever'
but I am that special type of a robot created with a heart...
I get tired and I feel pain too...
because like you, I am human.
Will you care to "listen", "feel", and "see" me too?
For just --- even, once??"

Do you think you will want to live the same life for this another year that is about to start?

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The Best Time To Say “I Quit. Goodbye”

Admit it or not, but even if you have determined that you are no longer emotionally attached or concerned about the person, you still can’t get the courage of telling that person directly that you want to end anything between the two of you. There are possible reasons for this. Different people though having the same concerns are actually faced to different reasons. 

You could be someone who believes that the person you love is the best person ever existed and that no one can ever be like her or him. You might be trapped in fear thinking that if you will let go of whatever it is that you have together, there will be not a single soul that you can be with after this relationship. Or maybe you made yourself believe that all you deserve is what you have right now. 

Call it quits. There are so many ways to do that. Be frank, be courteous. There also is a need for you to be sincere and honest. Don’t go around the bush and confuse the person with what you really want to confess. While this can cause them frustrations and depressions, but isn’t it that keeping the relationship for formality and mercy’s sake is more frustrating and depressing? Don’t you think you will be fair to the person by just simply confessing to them how and what exactly you feel?

When? There could be no other perfect and proper timing than soon. If not today, at least not some other time. You will know if you are at the right time. Listen to your heart, weigh your conscience. Study and observe the person. Get to know the possibilities of the plan you are intending to happen. Be prepared of the results and possible consequences for your intention and motives. 

How? Explain things right. Talk directly and never falter. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to be ruthless and rude to the person. If it is impossible for you to make them understand your side, make them feel that you are not just doing this for your sake but for both of you.

Keeping a relationship isn’t just about making you or the other party happy. A relationship is a partnership, therefore it selflessness must be present. There is no sense of keeping it when you know that you are no longer happy. In the same way, that it will be unfair to your partner to make him or her believe that you are still up for them when you absolutely are not.

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How Great Is Our God?

Is it really possible to define and describe the greatness of God? How do you know that you have been moved and experienced His greatness? Have you ever been into a situation when you have no other option to turn to but to believe and have faith in Him? Or have you been in a condition when your faith in Him is developed and nurtured? Like what’s the difference between these situations, anyway?

Knowing God and determining His greatness is not just during those times when you experience abundance. His greatness is not only shown whenever you received all of the things that you wished for, own the healthiest bank account, the happiest relationship or possessing the perfect psych. If this is your gauge in determining God’s greatness, then what will happen if you will be introduced to a ruthless and challenging situation? Will you still be able to say that God is great and praise Him despite the storms?

I know a person who was diagnosed with multiple illnesses few days before her 29th birthday. Oh she never had the perfect life either. She has experienced all kinds of depressing scenarios in life and has been faced to several struggles and trials. Despite all of those, she still manages to smile, give advises to people who need it and thank God for everything. She often will say that everything happens for a reason and that all things work together for good.

Until one fine day, while she was so excited for her upcoming birthday, she received a word from her doctor telling her that she has kidney and uterus problems. As she headed back to her apartment from her doctor’s office, her mind went blank. To her, it seems like this is more than life’s fair share. It was only few months from her break up with a long-time relationship and few days before her birthday. Questions popped into her mind. Doubt, uncertainties as well as rage came flashing through. She was asking herself if she deserves all of these. If God hasn’t seen another person living on earth except her? 

Right the moment she arrived at her apartment, she headed to her room shut the door behind her and burst into tears. And in all humility, she knelt down in prayer of awe to her Savior as she mumbles “Dear Lord, with all of my heart I thank you for this early birthday present.”

But of course, she is still suffering from those illnesses. She never asked God to take those away from her. She just asked Him to give her strength to face every day full of pain and treatment and asked Him as well to strengthen her faith in Him.

How great is our God? He is greater than any sickness and trials and struggles and challenges we have, we may have and we can have. How great is our God? He is marvelous that heaven and earth trembles upon hearing His name.

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I’m Sorry… I Loved You

I was once in my solace, didn’t really know the world outside. Was just then enjoying and taking pleasure of whatever it is that I have. I never really cared about how and what it is to love someone. I can, but I never really cared at all.

One day, I didn’t realize that among the people in the crowd I “saw” you. You were charming, I should say. Well, have seen set of charming people before. I told myself that I don’t really care. I told myself that if I’ll give it a try to “look” at you one day you will just leave, and I’ll be left alone… alone in my solace again.

I tried hard to not “see” you. I’ve overlooked the fact that I am “hearing” you. I don’t even like the fact that I am “feeling” you. I was afraid. I asked myself if it is possible for me to avoid you whenever time would come that I’d be pushed towards you. I didn’t get an answer for that. I wasn’t just sure. 

So now I am in. Trapped. Tangled. Imprisoned. I wanted to let lose, but I really don’t want to. This thing that you’ve caused me is confusing. It’s something that I can call “complication”. I seek for remedy. For a possible solution. However, I always ended back to you.

Hey, I’m sorry.. I didn’t mean it. It wasn’t really my intention to “see you”… to “hear you”… to “feel you”. I’m sorry that I’ve come to love you.

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